30-60-90
It's funny how people can make up rules for dating and relationships.
I won't ask a guy for his number.
I won't sleep with a guy on the first date.
I won't date anyone with children.
Any of these sound familiar? Whatever your rules are, I have one piece of advice: throw them out the window. You want to be happy? You have to go with the flow. If you can't do that, you can forget ever having a significant other (unless somehow you're lucky).
Rules, they say, are meant to be broken and if you like - or even love - someone, you have to be able to be flexible and give a little bit more of yourself. Hopefully you will get it in return. If you don't, you move on to the next. But if you are lucky enough have a good balance of give and take, that makes for a lasting relationship. If one person does all the driving or paying or supporting, that leaves the other person unsatisfied. Expectations should be clear, but rules? I think they have no place in a relationship. They complicate, more than elucidate.
A coworker told me a funny story about how when he first started dating his girlfriend, she said she had a 90 day rule. After a few weeks, it magically became the 60 day rule. And shortly thereafter it became the 30 day rule. Needless to say, the rule was broken because if you really want to do something, you're going to do it. Why kid yourself into believing you have control? Unless you're a robot. But if you're a robot, you're probably not reading this...
I won't ask a guy for his number.
I won't sleep with a guy on the first date.
I won't date anyone with children.
Any of these sound familiar? Whatever your rules are, I have one piece of advice: throw them out the window. You want to be happy? You have to go with the flow. If you can't do that, you can forget ever having a significant other (unless somehow you're lucky).
Rules, they say, are meant to be broken and if you like - or even love - someone, you have to be able to be flexible and give a little bit more of yourself. Hopefully you will get it in return. If you don't, you move on to the next. But if you are lucky enough have a good balance of give and take, that makes for a lasting relationship. If one person does all the driving or paying or supporting, that leaves the other person unsatisfied. Expectations should be clear, but rules? I think they have no place in a relationship. They complicate, more than elucidate.
A coworker told me a funny story about how when he first started dating his girlfriend, she said she had a 90 day rule. After a few weeks, it magically became the 60 day rule. And shortly thereafter it became the 30 day rule. Needless to say, the rule was broken because if you really want to do something, you're going to do it. Why kid yourself into believing you have control? Unless you're a robot. But if you're a robot, you're probably not reading this...
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