None of Your Business

People are always throwing around advice - especially relationship advice. The problem is, their advice pertains only to them and their experiences. This doesn't mean people in general have similar issues, but since everyone is different, even if only slightly (hey, there are about 7 billion people on the Earth now), their advice can be helpful to a point. Mostly in my experience, advice just clouds your own judgment. You become swayed by what other people say and your own decision is not really your own. If someone is telling you that someone isn't right for you or that they don't love you for x, y and z reasons, you might not have thought of it that way and now your thoughts have been exposed to the other person's "advice", which at this point resembles poison.

I suggest you listen to advice respectfully. Advice may be used as fodder for intellectual internal debates about relationships, but for nothing else. As long as your significant other hasn't cheated on you or abused you mentally or physically, I don't really think any one has the right to say what's what in a relationship that isn't theirs.

Be positive, give nice encouraging advice - spread peace and love. Suggest alternative solutions to problems, don't rain on everyone's parade. Humans will do whatever they want, ofttimes things that are counterintuitive (aka, bad for them), but recognize this as part of human nature. If you tell a person to dump their significant other, it's easy for you but incredibly difficult for them. They love their significant other. No amount of advice is going to change that. So offer some positive solutions or keep your mouth shut. That's always a positive solution.

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